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Gossip. Often defined as “casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details which are not confirmed as true.”

Isn’t it just something that some people use to distract other people who have nothing better to do than feeling jealous of a few or a lot of us? Maybe it’s insecurity on their part? Insecure people can be envious of you and your life, because they’re not happy about what they have going on in their own life. Often those people that criticise you, your life and the decisions that you make, are the same people who have no idea what you’ve suffered through, to get to where you are today.

Some of us will waste our precious years with small talk. It’s sad but most of us understand it probably, at least on some level.

Gossiping is far from nice and jealousy is a horrible trait. If someone tells you something, you can choose to believe it and that’s fine, it’s your choice. The thing is, you can’t always believe everything that you hear.

Is there any point in wasting your time with words though, if people only believe what they want to believe or hear what they want to hear? There is no point fighting a fight that can’t be fought, it’s a waste of time and energy. It’s ironic though. If you let people speak to you, you’ve almost granted them permission to talk to you. No such permission is needed though if they decide to talk about you.

Isn’t it sad and a little bit silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up as a human being? Shouldn’t a part of every day be about listening to your conscience though? As long as your conscience is clear. Be good, be kind, be nice. People will always say what they like, trying to stop them gossiping is like trying to drink coffee with a fork.

It’s intrinsic in most of us though to trust people, to want to trust people. All you want to do is look out for the people who look out for you. Pretty simple, right? So, you should stop giving time to those people with more faces than Big Ben. Who wants to have a relationship with someone like that? Ninety nine times out of a hundred, if someone is telling you stuff about another person, they’re going to tell your business to other people. You shouldn’t be taken in, if someone is going to gossip to you, they’ll damn sure gossip about you. Someone who smiles with you, can sometimes frown about you too much behind your back and you might never know. We could blame it all on human nature.

How much better would life be if everyone shied away from gossip? Let today or tomorrow be the day that you speak of only the good things that you know of the other people in your life. It doesn’t sound too hard, does it?

You should never judge someone’s character based on the words of someone who is speaking about them behind their back. What someone says about you behind your back, says a lot about them. Isn’t it better to examine the words said to you from the person who is quick to share a story with you? Stories are good but don’t you want to listen to the right storyteller in your life? How could it hurt to be less curious about people, and more curious about everything else that you want to know more about?

The worst thing about talk is that there’s no way to put it to bed. Everyone believes what they want to believe. Hopefully, the most important people in your life will see through the nonsense and instantly know what the truth is. You keep those people around, don’t you?

Some people are so intent on talking about other people’s failures and mistakes that you could almost swear they are talking about themselves. Fucking idiots.

You’re always told to never talk ill of the dead, but we seem to have zero problem at all doing the same with the living. Gossip and rumours are like germs. Spread them enough and people get contaminated.

Take lightly what you hear about people. If you hear something bad about someone that you know, why not sit down and have an actual conversation with them? Drop them a call, an email or a text. Isn’t it always better to know the facts? Doesn’t gossip wound your heart almost as much of that as the person that you’re speaking about?

There is a price to pay with everyone that you choose to have in your life. Don’t you just need to work out what that price is?

It’s stupid to forget about your own faults when the person you gossip about is made to think of their own, by the words you speak. If you’ve been a victim of it, hopefully that person knows what they did and they regret it.

Two ears, one mouth. We talk too much.

@TheSamMcLeod

I don’t know why you wonder why?

Isn’t being all about yourself, the surest way that you’ll end up being all by yourself?

Her ego could stretch the shit out of the universe. The problem was with it though that it appeared to have no end. One day she asked him to admit that the majority of things in his life were about her. They weren’t, he told her that and she didn’t like it. They were doomed from the beginning, although he didn’t know it at the time. That person that makes you laugh when no one else in the world can. You need to find them, don’t you? He thought it was her but it wasn’t. He realised that he needed to fall in love with his own heart because she wasn’t opening up her heart to him.

He thought that maybe he just needed to relax, trust her and that everything would be okay. He was no Robin Hood though, he was so wide of the mark.

When we were kids, we used to trust everything that we were told. Somewhere down the line, we stopped. We questioned things. He finally questioned whether or not she was a good idea and concluded that she wasn’t.

The brain. Who knows why it believes what it believes? Neurons and synapses? Maybe it’s your heart that directly impacts what your brain thinks. 99% of the time, he wanted to believe her and the things that she said but he knew that they weren’t all true. That other 1%? It was full of hope. Idiot.

She didn’t want to know how he felt, yet, she wanted him to know everything that she felt. Selfish, right? She was mesmerising and heartbreaking all at the same time. She thought that she was being interesting to him, in every minute of every day, when in reality, she was only being interesting to herself.

They both ended up where they are. Part of him still thinks that he didn’t make a mistake about her when they met, about who she was, about who she is. He saw the heartbreak coming though but it took him a while to get out of the way.

She’s not all bad, she has a fire that burns bright. There is a heart beating behind her craziness, it’s in there somewhere. She is almost perfect. Almost. No matter how much you try to contain a fire though, won’t it always burn the way that it wants to?

He now can’t understand what hurts more, missing her, or pretending not to. He can’t tell her though, that would only stoke her ego.

She was great in parts but she wasn’t the person that he could shape his life around. He couldn’t take the chance in the end. He never ever took her for granted though, it was nigh on impossible to do so. His own pride wouldn’t allow it, call it male stubbornness. Yet, there they were, imploding right in front of each other. Evel Knievel couldn’t jump the gap between the two of them now. It’s not your job to try and change someone though, is it? Even if you could, you can’t shape someone that has no shape.

It’s alright though, isn’t it? It’s certainly okay to her because it’s about her ego. Most of the time, perhaps all of the time, it’s got to be about her. Does she even know that’s why she’s there where she is and he’s not? He would have been there though. In a fucking heartbeat. Guess what fucked it? How do you even manage to give yourself permission to think that you’re better than everyone else?

Everything became a competition and only one of them could win. It wasn’t him, he failed quite spectacularly but he’s okay about it now. Or at least he thinks he is.

Having gone through the relationship with her, it changed his outlook. He’s more aware of how he treats other people now. He has his own ego but it’s not like the world owes him anything, not like how she is. We all make assumptions, we all have biases, we all have our own ego. It’s just the levels that are different, isn’t it?

She might have been the love of his life but now neither of them will ever know. She was the one when he was no one. Now, she’s nothing. It doesn’t even bother her. Her fucking ego.

He thought that he was clever enough to make whatever decisions he wanted to make but she filled him full of doubt at the end. It turns out that meeting her and sharing the things they did has made him better though. Even although she was bad for him, she made him better for whoever comes along next.

He learned not to allow her ego and insecurities to stop him growing, to stop him doing the things that he wanted so she clearly isn’t all bad. If you can meet someone and they make you better, then it’s a positive experience, I guess.

The thing is though, when you have a love affair with yourself, you still sleep alone at night.

And you wonder why, no one’s by your side?

@TheSamMcLeod